After Twenty Years

You would think after 20 years of being married to some one that the marriage should continue for life but this is not how it turns out for most. In fact a lot of marriage's go down in flames a little past this mark. There is 2 things going on here. One is the man wanting to relive his teenage life before he gets any older and also you have the woman finally feeling free to do what she wants to do since the children are now out of the home. This is not a good combination of 2 things going on at the same time.

I have two stories that tells about this situation. This first one is about my on parents after 21 years of being married.  My mother was a homemaker and really never got out of the house much even to see her own family. Us kids kept her pretty busy and she did not like to see us to far away from her at anytime. Dad worked all the time because I was always sick and the doctor and medicine bills was something that he had to take care of all the time. He worked two jobs most of the time and mom was at home by herself with just us kids and me being sick did not help matters. Well finally I get old enough and well enough to go off too college and the other kids got old enough too so the end was about to come to this marriage of my parents with these two main elements happening. Dad has extra money and starts to spend it on other women to get the excitement that he so much wanted and of course mom starts to get out of the house and fines out that she likes this freedom of going wherever she wanted to go without restraints.  Dad drinks and parties and mom gets pregnant at 38 years by another man which of course made the A-Bomb look small and the marriage ends.  Lack of fun and lack of communication in this marriage lead to a big demise where everyone hates everyone else.

This story is about a man that had to have a red corvette at 40 years old and a wife that just had to have a new house with a swimming pool to show off her fine body that she had at her age. The red corvette got the man a lot of attention from the young ladies and needless to say he could not resist the passion that was flowing thought his body. In this story the same thing happening to the woman too and they both left each other for younger guys and girls. Man, the kids really got screwed on that deal.

Divorce is at about 60 percent in the U.S. and the above stories is just an example of what goes on everyday in family's all across this country. Of course there is other reasons people fall apart but this 20 year deal is what I have seen for myself and I have heard of similar stories from others. We must fine away to communicate and have fun together early on in the marriage so to have something strong enough to keep us glue together as we travel this road of marriage if we plan to stay together for live. The old timers that have done it tells me that it is not easy all the time in the marriage but talking and getting out together along the way of life kept the lifetime marriage alive and going forward even with temptation that came along the way of their life but they say the bonding in the first 5 years did the trick for them.  It must be one hell of a glue at the 5 year mark.